It is undeniable in the fact that the more friends we have, the harder it will be in maintaining it. A lot of time is needed to keep track of friends' life, knowing about how they are doing, and offering a helping hand in times of trouble. Friendship is a bothersome. So why make friends?
REMEMBER. Put in mind that friendship is also a type of relationship. It's just a bit lower level compare to boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. And because it is a relationship, it involves love and commitment between two individuals; you and him/her. If either of you are not putting effort updating each other, as days pass, as time flies, the strength of the bond will become weaker. Unless of course both parties really trusts and have faith with each other. Just like how you put your trust and believes in them. Sometimes we even 'psycho' ourselves that the things we do are the right thing. "BELIEVE" "HAVE FAITH"
There are a few level of friendship; for my case, there's 3:
hi-bye friends(level 3),
Not sure about you guys and girls la.
Friendship, unlike relationship has their advantages, drawbacks and effects. Advantages that are available to you will depend on the level of friendship that are between you and your fellow mates. If the relationship is very good, you can share with them almost anything. And you will feel at ease, doing what you want to do in front of them; as to them, "you are you". You are not a tool; but a true friend.
Friendship, if fallen into the wrong clutches, is disastrous. There are people who take "friendship"not as a gift but as a tool to achieve what they want. I won't deny that i've never done this before. But it all depends on the situation. Always "give and more and take less". That is true friendship. If a friend takes more than what he gives, then he may just be your enemy. And you have a high chances of falling into a victim. And if you do, you will be fallen into the pits of hell, filled with anger, despair, hatred and maybe not even recognize yourself anymore. You will lose trust in others that treated you well, thinking " they want something from me."
When a friendship ends, the effect will be dependent on the friendship level that are between you and your friend. In level 3 friendship, you can lose a friend and yet almost feel no pain at all. As for level 2, losing them will be like losing a gamble. Because you do not know if they are your friends or enemies. And for level 1, losing them is almost like losing your identity. Well... almost like that. Imagine your best buddy of 10 years making you a scapegoat which ended you up in prison. Or your best buddy cheating on you with your girlfriend? Now ain't that hell? >.<" Friends comes and goes.
As we grow older, our circle of friends grows smaller. I've been there. I'm not the type that can survive alone. Therefore i need friends. Therefore, I am always seeking out new people to meet with. Regardless of their background. Just as long as they do not have a hidden agenda. At least you know that when you are in deep shit, somebody will get a shovel and dig u out of it. :P
Anyway, this should explains why is friendship important and why should we make friends. ~>MJ
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